Self Sabotage

ianharveySeptember 17, 2009

a onblur=”try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}” href=”http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDRcONeII/AAAAAAAAADY/ijeL6AdKCL4/s1600-h/Strikerfest.jpg”img style=”margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;” src=”http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDRcONeII/AAAAAAAAADY/ijeL6AdKCL4/s320/Strikerfest.jpg” alt=”” id=”BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5382438471573796994″ border=”0″ //abr /a onblur=”try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}” href=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDQ4paG8I/AAAAAAAAADQ/c8PuD81waVM/s1600-h/Rush.jpg”img style=”margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 281px; height: 320px;” src=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDQ4paG8I/AAAAAAAAADQ/c8PuD81waVM/s320/Rush.jpg” alt=”” id=”BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5382438462024195010″ border=”0″ //abr /a onblur=”try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}” href=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDQi0rXdI/AAAAAAAAADI/EMLTnjcoSUQ/s1600-h/Impact.jpg”img style=”margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 318px; height: 320px;” src=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tMUfWcB7w3I/SrJDQi0rXdI/AAAAAAAAADI/EMLTnjcoSUQ/s320/Impact.jpg” alt=”” id=”BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5382438456165883346″ border=”0″ //abr /I have been coaching soccer for about 8 years as a volunteer head coach of high level teams. I have also coached recreation soccer for the younger kids for many years. Last spring, I switched to coaching my 8 year old’s team.br /br /What I don’t get is how parents can sign their child up and then don’t bring the child to practice. The kids who go to the practices get familiar with their coach and teamates, improve very quickly at the game of soccer, and generally feel comfortable, do well, and have fun. The kids who don’t go to practice and just show up to the games generally stink, notice that they stink, feel bad about themselves, and don’t have fun (and maybe don’t want to come back). This has little to do with how athletic the kids are, but rather the preparation.br /br /For example, on my current team, I have two kids who have never played before and who still haven’t showed up to a game or a practice. The longer it takes for them to show up, the worse their experience is going to be. Right now, I can say it is going to be really scary as some of my girls can play really well already. I also have two more girls that thus far have only made it to games (the parents were not able to get them to the practices despite my offer to drive anyone to any game or practice). They obviously stunk and I’m not sure if one of them is going to want to come back. The rest of the girls improved tremendously, are confident, and are really enjoying themselves. The only difference is who came to practice and got prepared and who didn’t.br /br /I know there are strong parallels here when it comes to skiing and of course life in general. We need to allow ourselves and our kids to “become prepared” when we do things that we would like to succeed at.div class=”blogger-post-footer”img width=’1′ height=’1′ src=’https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/6725673749958162153-9166125593932437274?l=www.tokousnordicblog.com’ alt=” //div

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